*BIGC’s Membership Policies

**Rules of Engagement**

*First and foremost, respect confidentiality. Who you see and conversations that take place are to be treated as confidential and not shared with anyone outside the group. Anyone attending for reasons other than personal interest (for journalistic or acedemic reasons, for example), please identify yourself as such at the beginning of a meeting.

*Second, everyone comes from a variety of different perspectives – monogamous, polyamorous, traditionally gendered, transgendered, kinky, vanilla, Christian, Pagan, etc. Please recognize that there is no monolithic “bi voice,” but a broad diversity of experiences. Support every person’s right to explore his or her identity and express his or her sexuality, whether this expression is gay, lesbian, bisexual, heterosexual, or their own unique creation. Additionally, support every person’s right to explore and define their own gender identity.

*Third, consider language to be an integral part of self-identity. Please refer to other individuals according to the terminology they choose (examples of possible terms: bi, queer, bi-curious, bi-dyke, etc.).

*Fourth, communication is key to having a successful group of this diversity. If you are unsure of someone’s meaning, assume the best, and ask for clarification.

*Fifth, this is a peer support/networking organization – not therapy. A safe place to discuss, learn, and share is provided. Enjoy our similarities and grow from appreciating our differences.

*Sixth, although topics for groups will focus on Bisexuality, individuals of any orientation are welcome to attend meetings.

*And finally, respect for each other is a cornerstone of philosophy, and please share that kind of respect in as many ways as possible during meetings.

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20+ Topics we explore

1. How do we define bisexuality?

2. Coming out as Bi to ourselves: experiences

3. Coping with Homophobia

4. What is Biphobia?

5. Internalized Bi and Homophobia

6. Finding other Bi people

7. Relationships: with the same gender, with the other gender: what is the same, what is different?

8. Heterosexual privilege, marriage, civil unions, etc.

9. Do we identify with the lesbian/gay community, straight people or others?

10. Creating community for bisexuals

11. Safer sex issues: what practices are safer, negotiating for safer sex, etc.

12. Monogamy, Polyamory: challenges of each

13. Vanilla and kink and any combination: different sexual practices, deciding for ourselves what we want, respecting others boundaries

14. Activism / Politics: why bother? Ideas for effective organizing

15. Being OUT: things to consider, challenges and benefits

16. Being Bi and Family issues: relationships, children, exes, etc.

17. Being Bi and employment, other social groups (church/temple, unions, clubs, etc.)

18. Bisexuality and Spirituality

19. Countering Sterotypes of Bisexuality

20. Keeping individual identity while dating a gay/les/trans partner

21. The difference between bisexual and bicurious

22. Do you consider bicurious people to be part of the bisexual umbrella?

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